明白这3点，人生才有机会开挂
<p style="color:#444444;font-family:微软雅黑, "font-size:16px;background-color:#FFFFFF;"> <span class="ql-author-7099920 ql-size-12">为什么我真心想瘦，却屡屡在减肥失败？”</span> </p> <p style="color:#444444;font-family:微软雅黑, "font-size:16px;background-color:#FFFFFF;"> <span class="ql-author-7099920 ql-size-12">“为什么我明明只是想查个资料，却没完没了地刷起了朋友圈？”</span> </p> <p style="color:#444444;font-family:微软雅黑, "font-size:16px;background-color:#FFFFFF;"> <span class="ql-author-7099920 ql-size-12">“为什么我立下了N多flag，到年终的时候却发现又浑浑噩噩什么都没干？ </span> </p> <p style="color:#444444;font-family:微软雅黑, "font-size:16px;background-color:#FFFFFF;"> <span class="ql-author-7099920 ql-size-12">“为什么我们明明知道自己在越变越糟，却还是没办法做出任何改变？”</span> </p> <p style="color:#444444;font-family:微软雅黑, "font-size:16px;background-color:#FFFFFF;"> <span class="ql-author-7099920 ql-size-12"> ……</span> </p> <p style="color:#444444;font-family:微软雅黑, "font-size:16px;background-color:#FFFFFF;"> <span class="ql-author-7099920 ql-size-12"><br /> </span> </p> <p style="color:#444444;font-family:微软雅黑, "font-size:16px;background-color:#FFFFFF;"> <span class="ql-author-7099920 ql-size-12">很多人都曾在信誓旦旦地立下目标与浑浑噩噩地反复收场中，过着一种极度丧的人生。他们中的大多数，并没有放弃自我提升的意愿，也会眼馋别人开挂顺畅的滋润日子，但每次都是，斗志满满的在一个清晨想好了一切，然后在当天的黄昏就能偃旗息鼓的败北。</span> </p> <p style="color:#444444;font-family:微软雅黑, "font-size:16px;background-color:#FFFFFF;"> <span class="ql-author-7099920 ql-size-12"></span> </p> <p style="color:#444444;font-family:微软雅黑, "font-size:16px;background-color:#FFFFFF;"> <span class="ql-author-7099920 ql-size-12"></span><span class="ql-author-7099920 ql-size-12" style="font-weight:700 !important;font-size:inherit !important;">不要以为，他们不知道问题所在。</span> </p> <p style="color:#444444;font-family:微软雅黑, "font-size:16px;background-color:#FFFFFF;"> <span class="ql-author-7099920 ql-size-12" style="font-weight:700 !important;font-size:inherit !important;"><br /> </span> </p> <p style="color:#444444;font-family:微软雅黑, "font-size:16px;background-color:#FFFFFF;"> <span class="ql-author-7099920 ql-size-12"></span> </p> <p style="color:#444444;font-family:微软雅黑, "font-size:16px;background-color:#FFFFFF;"> <span class="ql-author-7099920 ql-size-12">几乎每个人都知道，不自律的人生有多糟糕。</span> </p> <p style="color:#444444;font-family:微软雅黑, "font-size:16px;background-color:#FFFFFF;"> <span class="ql-author-7099920 ql-size-12"></span> </p> <p style="color:#444444;font-family:微软雅黑, "font-size:16px;background-color:#FFFFFF;"> <span class="ql-author-7099920 ql-size-12">但他们，就是管不住自己。</span> </p> <p style="color:#444444;font-family:微软雅黑, "font-size:16px;background-color:#FFFFFF;"> <span class="ql-author-7099920 ql-size-12"></span> </p> <p style="color:#444444;font-family:微软雅黑, "font-size:16px;background-color:#FFFFFF;"> <span class="ql-author-7099920 ql-size-12">他们就是，不知道如何一步步让自己的执行力按照自己的心意去实现，更不知道，目标和现实中，到底要做些什么，才能像别人一样，让梦想照进现实。</span> </p> <p style="color:#444444;font-family:微软雅黑, "font-size:16px;background-color:#FFFFFF;"> <br /> </p> <p style="color:#444444;font-family:微软雅黑, "font-size:16px;background-color:#FFFFFF;"> 每周和你分享一本治愈心灵的书，这里是由心理FM出品的悦读心时光，我是立夏，今天要和你分享的这本书，能够帮助你们清醒地正视问题的症结所在，并用最理性的方式，帮你理清楚通过自律之路的关键点。 </p> <p style="color:#444444;font-family:微软雅黑, "font-size:16px;background-color:#FFFFFF;"> <span class="ql-author-7099920 ql-size-12"></span> </p> <p style="color:#444444;font-family:微软雅黑, "font-size:16px;background-color:#FFFFFF;"> <span class="ql-author-7099920 ql-size-12">让你最不抗拒的自我接纳方式，打开迟迟未打开的局面，让自己的人生早点开启开挂模式。</span> </p> <p style="color:#444444;font-family:微软雅黑, "font-size:16px;background-color:#FFFFFF;"> <span class="ql-author-7099920 ql-size-12"><br /> </span> </p> <p style="color:#444444;font-family:微软雅黑, "font-size:16px;background-color:#FFFFFF;"> <span class="ql-author-7099920 ql-size-12"></span> </p> <p style="color:#444444;font-family:微软雅黑, "font-size:16px;background-color:#FFFFFF;"> <span class="ql-author-7099920 ql-size-12">今天，从书中的几篇代表性文章里，提取3个点来跟大家分享一下。</span> </p> <p style="color:#444444;font-family:微软雅黑, "font-size:16px;background-color:#FFFFFF;"> <br /> </p> <p style="color:#444444;font-family:微软雅黑, "font-size:16px;background-color:#FFFFFF;"> <br /> </p> <p style="color:#444444;font-family:微软雅黑, "font-size:16px;background-color:#FFFFFF;"> <span class="ql-author-7099920 ql-size-12"></span><span class="ql-author-7099920 ql-size-12" style="font-weight:700 !important;font-size:inherit !important;">1、不自律，是因为首先在认识上你就没给够自己刺激。</span> </p> <p style="color:#444444;font-family:微软雅黑, "font-size:16px;background-color:#FFFFFF;"> <span class="ql-author-7099920 ql-size-12" style="font-weight:700 !important;font-size:inherit !important;"><br /> </span> </p> <p style="color:#444444;font-family:微软雅黑, "font-size:16px;background-color:#FFFFFF;"> <span class="ql-author-7099920 ql-size-12"></span> </p> <p style="color:#444444;font-family:微软雅黑, "font-size:16px;background-color:#FFFFFF;"> <span class="ql-author-7099920 ql-size-12">前段时间，谢娜曾在微博上晒出了自己的马甲线。</span> </p> <p style="color:#444444;font-family:微软雅黑, "font-size:16px;background-color:#FFFFFF;"> <span class="ql-author-7099920 ql-size-12"></span> </p> <p style="color:#444444;font-family:微软雅黑, "font-size:16px;background-color:#FFFFFF;"> <span class="ql-author-7099920 ql-size-12">想想看，一个怀了双胞胎的女人，产后的身材会因为你是明星就要格外包容嘛？</span> </p> <p style="color:#444444;font-family:微软雅黑, "font-size:16px;background-color:#FFFFFF;"> <span class="ql-author-7099920 ql-size-12"></span> </p> <p style="color:#444444;font-family:微软雅黑, "font-size:16px;background-color:#FFFFFF;"> <span class="ql-author-7099920 ql-size-12">恰恰相反，娱乐圈更是一个用放大镜来看待你身材与外形的残酷世界。</span> </p> <p style="color:#444444;font-family:微软雅黑, "font-size:16px;background-color:#FFFFFF;"> <span class="ql-author-7099920 ql-size-12"></span> </p> <p style="color:#444444;font-family:微软雅黑, "font-size:16px;background-color:#FFFFFF;"> <span class="ql-author-7099920 ql-size-12">她们的危机感，可能比我们普通产妇来说，更为严峻。</span> </p> <p style="color:#444444;font-family:微软雅黑, "font-size:16px;background-color:#FFFFFF;"> <span class="ql-author-7099920 ql-size-12"><br /> </span> </p> <p style="color:#444444;font-family:微软雅黑, "font-size:16px;background-color:#FFFFFF;"> <span class="ql-author-7099920 ql-size-12"></span> </p> <p style="color:#444444;font-family:微软雅黑, "font-size:16px;background-color:#FFFFFF;"> <span class="ql-author-7099920 ql-size-12">但这不代表，普通人变胖变丑，一身的妊娠纹，就能被这个世界温柔以待。</span> </p> <p style="color:#444444;font-family:微软雅黑, "font-size:16px;background-color:#FFFFFF;"> <span class="ql-author-7099920 ql-size-12"></span> </p> <p style="color:#444444;font-family:微软雅黑, "font-size:16px;background-color:#FFFFFF;"> <span class="ql-author-7099920 ql-size-12">对明星来说，皮相与身材，是饭碗，是门面。</span> </p> <p style="color:#444444;font-family:微软雅黑, "font-size:16px;background-color:#FFFFFF;"> <span class="ql-author-7099920 ql-size-12"></span> </p> <p style="color:#444444;font-family:微软雅黑, "font-size:16px;background-color:#FFFFFF;"> <span class="ql-author-7099920 ql-size-12">对普通人来说，身材上的律己，是自信不减的底气。</span> </p> <p style="color:#444444;font-family:微软雅黑, "font-size:16px;background-color:#FFFFFF;"> <span class="ql-author-7099920 ql-size-12"></span> </p> <p style="color:#444444;font-family:微软雅黑, "font-size:16px;background-color:#FFFFFF;"> <span class="ql-author-7099920 ql-size-12">但无论对谁来说，身材走样，都会是危机感的开始。</span> </p> <p style="color:#444444;font-family:微软雅黑, "font-size:16px;background-color:#FFFFFF;"> <span class="ql-author-7099920 ql-size-12"></span> </p> <p style="color:#444444;font-family:微软雅黑, "font-size:16px;background-color:#FFFFFF;"> <span class="ql-author-7099920 ql-size-12">当环境足够宽容时，你没有警惕。</span> </p> <p style="color:#444444;font-family:微软雅黑, "font-size:16px;background-color:#FFFFFF;"> <span class="ql-author-7099920 ql-size-12"></span> </p> <p style="color:#444444;font-family:微软雅黑, "font-size:16px;background-color:#FFFFFF;"> <span class="ql-author-7099920 ql-size-12">直到有一天，你突然发现：</span> </p> <p style="color:#444444;font-family:微软雅黑, "font-size:16px;background-color:#FFFFFF;"> <br /> </p> <p style="color:#444444;font-family:微软雅黑, "font-size:16px;background-color:#FFFFFF;"> <span class="ql-author-7099920 ql-size-12">从前，你的手机里全是自拍照；现在，你一看到有人拍照就本能的躲闪。</span> </p> <p style="color:#444444;font-family:微软雅黑, "font-size:16px;background-color:#FFFFFF;"> <span class="ql-author-7099920 ql-size-12"></span> </p> <p style="color:#444444;font-family:微软雅黑, "font-size:16px;background-color:#FFFFFF;"> <span class="ql-author-7099920 ql-size-12">从前，你踩着高跟鞋逛商场一下午都没喊过累；现在，你衣柜里的衣服都穿不下了可还是不肯去试衣服再遭受XXXL号码的无情打击。</span> </p> <p style="color:#444444;font-family:微软雅黑, "font-size:16px;background-color:#FFFFFF;"> <span class="ql-author-7099920 ql-size-12"></span> </p> <p style="color:#444444;font-family:微软雅黑, "font-size:16px;background-color:#FFFFFF;"> <span class="ql-author-7099920 ql-size-12">有人说，中年女人慢慢消失在朋友圈，是因为成熟，是因为清心寡欲。</span> </p> <p style="color:#444444;font-family:微软雅黑, "font-size:16px;background-color:#FFFFFF;"> <span class="ql-author-7099920 ql-size-12"></span> </p> <p style="color:#444444;font-family:微软雅黑, "font-size:16px;background-color:#FFFFFF;"> <span class="ql-author-7099920 ql-size-12">其实，中年妇女不喜欢抛头露面，是拿得出手的东西，越来越少。</span> </p> <p style="color:#444444;font-family:微软雅黑, "font-size:16px;background-color:#FFFFFF;"> <span class="ql-author-7099920 ql-size-12"></span> </p> <p style="color:#444444;font-family:微软雅黑, "font-size:16px;background-color:#FFFFFF;"> <span class="ql-author-7099920 ql-size-12">沦落至此，不过是因为，当初残酷岁月的刀悬在头顶的时候，你偏要骗自己“没事儿的”“没事儿的”。</span> </p> <p style="color:#444444;font-family:微软雅黑, "font-size:16px;background-color:#FFFFFF;"> <span class="ql-author-7099920 ql-size-12"></span> </p> <p style="color:#444444;font-family:微软雅黑, "font-size:16px;background-color:#FFFFFF;"> <span class="ql-author-7099920 ql-size-12">当全世界不再温柔待你，你才知道，回避危机感，才是女人不自律的致命问题。</span> </p> <p style="color:#444444;font-family:微软雅黑, "font-size:16px;background-color:#FFFFFF;"> <span class="ql-author-7099920 ql-size-12"></span> </p> <p style="color:#444444;font-family:微软雅黑, "font-size:16px;background-color:#FFFFFF;"> <br /> </p> <p style="color:#444444;font-family:微软雅黑, "font-size:16px;background-color:#FFFFFF;"> <br /> </p> <p style="color:#444444;font-family:微软雅黑, "font-size:16px;background-color:#FFFFFF;"> <span class="ql-author-7099920 ql-size-12"></span><span class="ql-author-7099920 ql-size-12" style="font-weight:700 !important;font-size:inherit !important;">2、自律的人不是持续有</span><span class="ql-author-7099920 ql-size-12" style="font-weight:700 !important;">激情，而是反复在做“对的事”。</span> </p> <p style="color:#444444;font-family:微软雅黑, "font-size:16px;background-color:#FFFFFF;"> <br /> </p> <p style="color:#444444;font-family:微软雅黑, "font-size:16px;background-color:#FFFFFF;"> <span class="ql-author-7099920 ql-size-12"></span> </p> <p style="color:#444444;font-family:微软雅黑, "font-size:16px;background-color:#FFFFFF;"> <span class="ql-author-7099920 ql-size-12">自律苦不苦？说实话，很苦。</span> </p> <p style="color:#444444;font-family:微软雅黑, "font-size:16px;background-color:#FFFFFF;"> <span class="ql-author-7099920 ql-size-12"></span> </p> <p style="color:#444444;font-family:微软雅黑, "font-size:16px;background-color:#FFFFFF;"> <span class="ql-author-7099920 ql-size-12">但那些把自律分解成习惯后的人，就不会过得像个苦行僧。</span> </p> <p style="color:#444444;font-family:微软雅黑, "font-size:16px;background-color:#FFFFFF;"> <span class="ql-author-7099920 ql-size-12"></span> </p> <p style="color:#444444;font-family:微软雅黑, "font-size:16px;background-color:#FFFFFF;"> <span class="ql-author-7099920 ql-size-12">之前曾遇到过一个高中读者，每天看上去非常自律，也非常的，不开心。</span> </p> <p style="color:#444444;font-family:微软雅黑, "font-size:16px;background-color:#FFFFFF;"> <span class="ql-author-7099920 ql-size-12"></span> </p> <p style="color:#444444;font-family:微软雅黑, "font-size:16px;background-color:#FFFFFF;"> <span class="ql-author-7099920 ql-size-12">她的不开心，不是一种心理活动，而是一种情绪的直接外露——嚎啕大哭。</span> </p> <p style="color:#444444;font-family:微软雅黑, "font-size:16px;background-color:#FFFFFF;"> <span class="ql-author-7099920 ql-size-12"><br /> </span> </p> <p style="color:#444444;font-family:微软雅黑, "font-size:16px;background-color:#FFFFFF;"> <span class="ql-author-7099920 ql-size-12"></span> </p> <p style="color:#444444;font-family:微软雅黑, "font-size:16px;background-color:#FFFFFF;"> <span class="ql-author-7099920 ql-size-12">她妈妈曾忧心忡忡地找到我，说孩子很上进，很懂事，也很乖，但就是学习学得太苦了，晚上12点不睡，背单词背着背着会哭起来。</span> </p> <p style="color:#444444;font-family:微软雅黑, "font-size:16px;background-color:#FFFFFF;"> <span class="ql-author-7099920 ql-size-12"></span> </p> <p style="color:#444444;font-family:微软雅黑, "font-size:16px;background-color:#FFFFFF;"> <span class="ql-author-7099920 ql-size-12">于是满怀期待地问我，老师，你有什么好的办法，让孩子学得有新鲜感一些嘛？ </span> </p> <p style="color:#444444;font-family:微软雅黑, "font-size:16px;background-color:#FFFFFF;"> <span class="ql-author-7099920 ql-size-12"></span> </p> <p style="color:#444444;font-family:微软雅黑, "font-size:16px;background-color:#FFFFFF;"> <span class="ql-author-7099920 ql-size-12">说实话，如果是打鸡血，我把孩子叫过来，随便几个例子几个金句，就能让她深信不疑地认为自己人生得救了。</span> </p> <p style="color:#444444;font-family:微软雅黑, "font-size:16px;background-color:#FFFFFF;"> <span class="ql-author-7099920 ql-size-12"></span> </p> <p style="color:#444444;font-family:微软雅黑, "font-size:16px;background-color:#FFFFFF;"> <span class="ql-author-7099920 ql-size-12">但开挂的人生本质，却是枯燥而重复的。</span> </p> <p style="color:#444444;font-family:微软雅黑, "font-size:16px;background-color:#FFFFFF;"> <span class="ql-author-7099920 ql-size-12"><br /> </span> </p> <p style="color:#444444;font-family:微软雅黑, "font-size:16px;background-color:#FFFFFF;"> <span class="ql-author-7099920 ql-size-12"></span> </p> <p style="color:#444444;font-family:微软雅黑, "font-size:16px;background-color:#FFFFFF;"> <span class="ql-author-7099920 ql-size-12">正是因为这种琐碎而让人头疼的属性，而击溃了很多人的意志力。</span> </p> <p style="color:#444444;font-family:微软雅黑, "font-size:16px;background-color:#FFFFFF;"> <span class="ql-author-7099920 ql-size-12"></span> </p> <p style="color:#444444;font-family:微软雅黑, "font-size:16px;background-color:#FFFFFF;"> <span class="ql-author-7099920 ql-size-12">道理是简单而直接的，但执行起来，就像是长夜独行，有人告诉你灯塔的位置，也有人告诉你脚下的公里数，但就是没有人，会一直牵着你，一步步走完全程。</span> </p> <p style="color:#444444;font-family:微软雅黑, "font-size:16px;background-color:#FFFFFF;"> <span class="ql-author-7099920 ql-size-12"><br /> </span> </p> <p style="color:#444444;font-family:微软雅黑, "font-size:16px;background-color:#FFFFFF;"> <span class="ql-author-7099920 ql-size-12"></span> </p> <p style="color:#444444;font-family:微软雅黑, "font-size:16px;background-color:#FFFFFF;"> <span class="ql-author-7099920 ql-size-12">人在自处时，难免慌张，难免自我怀疑，难免会迷失掉初心所向，这就需要一个强大的机制，去牵引着你走走歇歇，直到目的地。</span> </p> <p style="color:#444444;font-family:微软雅黑, "font-size:16px;background-color:#FFFFFF;"> <span class="ql-author-7099920 ql-size-12"></span> </p> <p style="color:#444444;font-family:微软雅黑, "font-size:16px;background-color:#FFFFFF;"> <span class="ql-author-7099920 ql-size-12">而最好的自我管理机制，就是习惯的养成。</span> </p> <p style="color:#444444;font-family:微软雅黑, "font-size:16px;background-color:#FFFFFF;"> <span class="ql-author-7099920 ql-size-12"></span> </p> <p style="color:#444444;font-family:微软雅黑, "font-size:16px;background-color:#FFFFFF;"> <span class="ql-author-7099920 ql-size-12">你要不断用好习惯去让自己品尝到优秀的好处，形成良性的自我激励循环，你的日子才不会那么苦，你的人生才会在正向积累的过程中，越来越自如，越来越不那么费力。</span> </p> <p style="color:#444444;font-family:微软雅黑, "font-size:16px;background-color:#FFFFFF;"> <span class="ql-author-7099920 ql-size-12"><br /> </span> </p> <p style="color:#444444;font-family:微软雅黑, "font-size:16px;background-color:#FFFFFF;"> <span class="ql-author-7099920 ql-size-12"><br /> </span> </p> <p style="color:#444444;font-family:微软雅黑, "font-size:16px;background-color:#FFFFFF;"> <span class="ql-author-7099920 ql-size-12"></span> </p> <p style="color:#444444;font-family:微软雅黑, "font-size:16px;background-color:#FFFFFF;"> <span class="ql-author-7099920 ql-size-12"></span><span class="ql-author-7099920 ql-size-12" style="font-weight:700 !important;font-size:inherit !important;">3．能够杀死你的，往往是一无所成的孤独。</span> </p> <p style="color:#444444;font-family:微软雅黑, "font-size:16px;background-color:#FFFFFF;"> <span class="ql-author-7099920 ql-size-12" style="font-weight:700 !important;font-size:inherit !important;"><br /> </span> </p> <p style="color:#444444;font-family:微软雅黑, "font-size:16px;background-color:#FFFFFF;"> <span class="ql-author-7099920 ql-size-12"></span> </p> <p style="color:#444444;font-family:微软雅黑, "font-size:16px;background-color:#FFFFFF;"> <span class="ql-author-7099920 ql-size-12">人人渴望成功，不光是因为功利意义上的成功能够带给物欲上的满足感。</span> </p> <p style="color:#444444;font-family:微软雅黑, "font-size:16px;background-color:#FFFFFF;"> <span class="ql-author-7099920 ql-size-12"></span> </p> <p style="color:#444444;font-family:微软雅黑, "font-size:16px;background-color:#FFFFFF;"> <span class="ql-author-7099920 ql-size-12">更重要的原因，是因为它能帮助你成为更受欢迎的人。</span> </p> <p style="color:#444444;font-family:微软雅黑, "font-size:16px;background-color:#FFFFFF;"> <span class="ql-author-7099920 ql-size-12"></span> </p> <p style="color:#444444;font-family:微软雅黑, "font-size:16px;background-color:#FFFFFF;"> <span class="ql-author-7099920 ql-size-12">当一个人，人生开挂，功成名就，如果他性格上有一点偏执，人们会把这点“小瑕疵”，看作是成功人士特有的恃才傲物。</span> </p> <p style="color:#444444;font-family:微软雅黑, "font-size:16px;background-color:#FFFFFF;"> <span class="ql-author-7099920 ql-size-12"></span> </p> <p style="color:#444444;font-family:微软雅黑, "font-size:16px;background-color:#FFFFFF;"> <span class="ql-author-7099920 ql-size-12">当一个人，处处失意，完全就是一个干啥啥不行的“Loser”时，如果他脾气再大点，只会增加别人对他的厌恶程度。</span> </p> <p style="color:#444444;font-family:微软雅黑, "font-size:16px;background-color:#FFFFFF;"> <span class="ql-author-7099920 ql-size-12"></span> </p> <p style="color:#444444;font-family:微软雅黑, "font-size:16px;background-color:#FFFFFF;"> <span class="ql-author-7099920 ql-size-12">所以，从一定程度上讲，我们追求向上的人生，也是在给自己努力争取一些真实做自己的空间。</span> </p> <p style="color:#444444;font-family:微软雅黑, "font-size:16px;background-color:#FFFFFF;"> <span class="ql-author-7099920 ql-size-12"></span> </p> <p style="color:#444444;font-family:微软雅黑, "font-size:16px;background-color:#FFFFFF;"> <span class="ql-author-7099920 ql-size-12">说到底，失意的人生不是不可以过，只是要问一下自己，是否可以忍受。</span> </p> <p style="color:#444444;font-family:微软雅黑, "font-size:16px;background-color:#FFFFFF;"> <span class="ql-author-7099920 ql-size-12"><br /> </span> </p> <p style="color:#444444;font-family:微软雅黑, "font-size:16px;background-color:#FFFFFF;"> <span class="ql-author-7099920 ql-size-12"></span> </p> <p style="color:#444444;font-family:微软雅黑, "font-size:16px;background-color:#FFFFFF;"> <span class="ql-author-7099920 ql-size-12">忍受看不起，忍受势利眼，忍受别人的避之不及。</span> </p> <p style="color:#444444;font-family:微软雅黑, "font-size:16px;background-color:#FFFFFF;"> <span class="ql-author-7099920 ql-size-12"></span> </p> <p style="color:#444444;font-family:微软雅黑, "font-size:16px;background-color:#FFFFFF;"> <span class="ql-author-7099920 ql-size-12">若你根本受不了这种失败者的孤独人生，那就只能想办法让自己更受欢迎。</span> </p> <p style="color:#444444;font-family:微软雅黑, "font-size:16px;background-color:#FFFFFF;"> <span class="ql-author-7099920 ql-size-12"></span> </p> <p style="color:#444444;font-family:微软雅黑, "font-size:16px;background-color:#FFFFFF;"> <span class="ql-author-7099920 ql-size-12">这不是取悦别人，而更是在取悦自己。</span> </p> <p style="color:#444444;font-family:微软雅黑, "font-size:16px;background-color:#FFFFFF;"> <span class="ql-author-7099920 ql-size-12"><br /> </span> </p> <p style="color:#444444;font-family:微软雅黑, "font-size:16px;background-color:#FFFFFF;"> <span class="ql-author-7099920 ql-size-12"></span> </p> <p style="color:#444444;font-family:微软雅黑, "font-size:16px;background-color:#FFFFFF;"> <span class="ql-author-7099920 ql-size-12">电影《霍元甲》中说， “我以为，世上的武术确实没有高低之分，只有习武之人才有强弱之别，通过竞技我们可以发现和认识真正的自己，因为我们的对手可能就是我们自己”。</span> </p> <p style="color:#444444;font-family:微软雅黑, "font-size:16px;background-color:#FFFFFF;"> <span class="ql-author-7099920 ql-size-12"></span> </p> <p style="color:#444444;font-family:微软雅黑, "font-size:16px;background-color:#FFFFFF;"> <span class="ql-author-7099920 ql-size-12">人生亦如此。</span> </p> <p style="color:#444444;font-family:微软雅黑, "font-size:16px;background-color:#FFFFFF;"> <span class="ql-author-7099920 ql-size-12"></span> </p> <p style="color:#444444;font-family:微软雅黑, "font-size:16px;background-color:#FFFFFF;"> <span class="ql-author-7099920 ql-size-12">世上没有什么高人一等的人生，自律就相当于习武之人的一门核心手艺，我们看似是拼劲全力跟旁人比个高下，而真正跟自己过招的，一直都是我们自己。</span> </p> <p style="color:#444444;font-family:微软雅黑, "font-size:16px;background-color:#FFFFFF;"> <span class="ql-author-7099920 ql-size-12"><br /> </span> </p> <p style="color:#444444;font-family:微软雅黑, "font-size:16px;background-color:#FFFFFF;"> <span class="ql-author-7099920 ql-size-12"></span> </p> <p style="color:#444444;font-family:微软雅黑, "font-size:16px;background-color:#FFFFFF;"> <span class="ql-author-7099920 ql-size-12">所以，在这条路上，别人怎么看你，都不是最重要的。</span> </p> <p style="color:#444444;font-family:微软雅黑, "font-size:16px;background-color:#FFFFFF;"> <span class="ql-author-7099920 ql-size-12"></span> </p> <p style="color:#444444;font-family:微软雅黑, "font-size:16px;background-color:#FFFFFF;"> <span class="ql-author-7099920 ql-size-12">最重要的是，这如果不是你想要的人生。</span> </p> <p style="color:#444444;font-family:微软雅黑, "font-size:16px;background-color:#FFFFFF;"> <span class="ql-author-7099920 ql-size-12"></span> </p> <p style="color:#444444;font-family:微软雅黑, "font-size:16px;background-color:#FFFFFF;"> <span class="ql-author-7099920 ql-size-12">那就去得到自己想要的另一种人生。</span> </p> <p style="color:#444444;font-family:微软雅黑, "font-size:16px;background-color:#FFFFFF;"> <span class="ql-author-7099920 ql-size-12"></span> </p> <p style="color:#444444;font-family:微软雅黑, "font-size:16px;background-color:#FFFFFF;"> <span class="ql-author-7099920 ql-size-12">而在这条路上，你不能一步到位，不能觊觎捷径。</span> </p> <p style="color:#444444;font-family:微软雅黑, "font-size:16px;background-color:#FFFFFF;"> <span class="ql-author-7099920 ql-size-12"></span> </p> <p style="color:#444444;font-family:微软雅黑, "font-size:16px;background-color:#FFFFFF;"> <span class="ql-author-7099920 ql-size-12">你要做个心中有数，手中有招式的人，去展示自己开挂的一生。</span> </p> <div> <br /> </div>
